Worship Standards

Roughly ten years ago I fell in love with Jesus. As anyone who is married will tell you; when you fall in love with someone you also have to accept their family as your own. With Jesus, the family is the Church (not exclusively meaning those that attend a physical assembly, of course). The church I found myself in was Pentecostal, specifically Church of God. One of the things I heard the most often (and that pisses me off) is that we should praise God even when we don't feel it.

Here's the thing: I think God actually gives a damn about how we feel. I think our emotional health means something to our creator. Don't get me wrong, I do think we should worship God. The thing is when they say "praise God when you don't feel it" they mean do what we see as acceptable worship to God. So lift your hands when you feel as though your insides are dying. Sing loud, even though you throat hurts so badly from holding back tears that you can barely get the words out. The worst part it that by "feel it" they often mean emotional hype (aka glorified group think). Just do it so that we don't have to deal with you. Do it, because your problems are nothing in the big picture. (This is in direct contrast to another teaching which says God cares so deeply about us that He wants to hear it all.)

The problem I've found most aggravating lately is that everyone has "acceptable praise." There are just certain things you don't do in mixed company. There are also some things you MUST do if you are "true blue" saved and sanctified. So these people say silent prayers. This congregation sings contemporary Christian music, claps their hands and raises them high. This group gets through about one song before peeps are running up and down isles, casting out devils and charging hell with water pistols and spirit fire. It's very rare to find a place that really means it when they say "worship God in the way you feel led."

Final lesson? Just love him and love people (even when they're assholes, as best you can). When it all comes down to it, God does care about us and how we feel and yes, He is pretty fantastic so we should praise Him but maybe somedays praise just means getting on your knees and whispering a prayer with what strength you've got left, but maybe on another day it means dancing your ass off either way.

The fact is that our worship is never meant to live up to organized religion or mans' standards.

Just Another Tuesday...

First I need to confess this post is going to be very different from my previous posts. It's much less of a sermon blog and more of a personal, honest, vulnerable confession post. 

Five months ago I left my home church as many of you know. 

I've experienced more emotions over these past few months than I had in quite some time. I've felt them to an extent that I haven't known since high school when everything was poignant and I wasn't so guarded. 

I didn't realize it then, but when I left the building I lost more than a service every Sunday. I lost a community I had grown up in. I lost teenagers I had known since they were toddlers. These same teenagers I had been a youth pastor and friend to for a short time. I lost most of them. I lost friendships and mentors, sisters and brothers, people who were my second family. I lost children I had known since they were born. These children and teenagers I loved and still love as my own children or little brothers and sisters. 

In a true community of faith relationships go deeper than "it's good to see you again" and transcend into a sacred place that cannot be explained but only felt. I spent hours with my community. I cried with them, celebrated with them, learned with them and they with me. Before the merger and the severe changes that ultimately caused us to leave my church was the one people that hated church loved. People who didn't go to church saw the community we had and said "that's not so bad." 

One of the deepest emotions I've felt is anger. This anger stems from pain and fear. Pain in what's been lost and the fear that I won't find community like this again. I still feel this. Everyday. I struggle with my thoughts on the church. I've realized in the past few weeks that the mark of true community is being able to be vulnerable with one another without fear of judgment. When we're not given the chance we need to be fully vulnerable to a small community there is something that's lost in our personal lives. Something I've been lacking. Something I still don't feel I have the strength to seek out again. 

The reason this post is more therapeutic and less sermon is because I know not the preach from a wound. All of this is still, admittedly, a wound for me. I am too broken to be vulnerable. I have to put on a shield just to walk into any church now. As much as I love the church I found and the "feel" of it, I am terrified of trying to become close to it. I am terrified of community. Sweet Jesus, help me. 

Fools Rush In

When we consider foolishness and the idea of being a fool it can be hard to define. My goal in this blog is to firstly attempt to come to a definition and then figure out what exactly a season of foolishness is and how the hell to get out of it. 

I've spent the past month trying to determine exactly what Psalm 107:17-18 is talking about when it says: "Some became fools through their rebellious ways and suffered affliction because of their iniquities. They loathed all food and drew near the gates of death." What season is it in our lives that brings us to the point where we may be considered "fools"? What exactly does that look like?

Dictionary.com defines a fool as "a person who acts unwisely or imprudently; a silly person." At some point in our lives, often at multiple points, we all act unwisely. We do something or make a decision that could be considered "foolish".  

I believe the key to foolishness is that we know better. We are a fool when we know what is right but we CHOOSE wrong. We rebel. The crazy part is that for a time foolishness is fun. After all for a time it is great to be a silly person. Being "bad" feels good for a little while, but then it turns against us. 

That very folly we enjoyed and even reveled in becomes a poison to our very being. It rots our innards and destroys our surroundings when we stay too long. 

So yes, first and foremost the season of foolishness is marked by rebellion. We rebel against God, authority figures and the choice we know to be wise. The reason foolishness is so difficult a season to reckon with is because we don't want to talk about our own rebellion. We don't want to admit that our grudges, our unforgiving natures even are a form of rebellion in and of themselves. 

"Unfortunately, some of our greatest tribulations are the result of our own foolishness and weakness and occur because of our own carelessness or transgression." -James E. Faust

Sometimes rebellion/foolishness doesn't look like what we think. Notice I mentioned unforgiving natures in that last paragraph. When someone does us wrong, I mean really betrays our trust, it feels good to hold a grudge. It feels RIGHT even. However, holding a grudge is just plain wrong. It sounds cliche, but anytime we don't forgive someone it doesn't really hurt them so much, it hurts us. It causes bitterness. 

And I know bitterness. I fight it everyday. If we're honest with ourselves, we all do. Why? Because forgiveness is hard. It's hard to receive and give it, but that's the Gospel. Receiving and giving forgiveness even when it's not deserved. 

So how do we get out of the cycle of foolishness? 

We find the answer in the rest of the verses from Psalms 107:

"Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He sent out his word and healed them; he rescued them from the grave. Let them give thank to the Lord for his unfailing love and his wonderful deeds for mankind. Let them sacrifice thank offerings and tell of his works with songs of joy."

Did you catch it? 

Surrender. 

All that anger, all the pain, our need for approval, our disappointment and any other reason for our rebellion...We have to surrender it. Lay it down and cry out for help. 

Is it hard? Hells yes it is. But that's what makes it surrender. That's what make genuine Christian living hard: We have to choose to lay ourselves down. 

Blessings, peace, grace and mercy to each of you
Barbara

The Long Ride Home

Three years ago if you had asked me what my dream was I would have said it was to some day have my own parish and serve as lead pastor. 

Today I realize exactly why it is so vital to trust God's plans over ours. 

Surrender has always been difficult for me. Although I believe in a God that moves mountains the size of continents just cause He can, I find it challenging to let go of my need for control. Yes, I am a self-diagnosed control freak. I am also an obsessive planner. I had my whole life planned at fifteen. (That was not a joke or an over exaggeration.) 

So when God says, "Lay your cares on me" I have learned to listen. 

Today I realize that God knew, better than I, that to be an indentured servant of a dysfunctional system would break my spirit and leave me emptied and bitter. 

I pondered all of this on my drive home from work today. 

I thought of how my radical Jesus came to a time where oppression was the norm and legalism had reached new heights. He came to a time where holiness was reached by being perfect on the outside and performing all the right deeds precisely as directed. 

My crazy, beautiful Jesus came to a cookie cutter religion and blew it out of the water. 

I could count on one hand the number of times its recording in the New Testament that Jesus taught within the synagogue walls. 

He showed that relationship with God very rarely happens within the walls of a designated place. More often we encounter God at the dinner table, the graveyard, the hillside or while we walk down the road. 

Not only this, but He looked at Peter (a fisherman with a tendency to put his foot in his mouth when he spoke turned disciple who still had a slight tendency to not be so tactful) and said to him "On this rock, I will build my church." (Matthew 16:18) 

He looked at a synagogue (the church of that day) and prophesied that it would be destroyed. (Which it was.)

Fast forward approximately 2,000 years. 

Now we have tried to shove Him back in a building. We've declared church is not church unless it takes place in the walls. 

And worse: We've declared that Christian is not Christian unless within the walls each Sunday morning and Wednesday evening. 

We've lost sight of the crazy, beautiful heart of Jesus. That wild One who was wholly God and wholly man who ate with thieves, made disciples out of fisherman and tax collectors and showed that God loves prostitutes where others would judge them. 

This is not me attacking the Church. 

This is me attacking the lie that the Church has bought into.

The lie that everything has to be done exactly as we say or it's wrong and ungodly. Sound familiar? We've made ourselves beautiful Pharisees and given up our true beauty as the reflection of a loving, powerful, redeeming God. 

The hardest true is this: before we can lift up the true image we're meant to bear, we first must break down the lies that have corrupted it. 

How?

I haven't the slightest. But I know it starts with surrendering our need for perfection and control so that we can be remade into the the true Ekklesia. 

The Redefining : My Extended Sabbath

I have spent the last few months on an extended Sabbath, or sabbatical as some may call it.

Before leaving my home church, for quite some time, I had been in a place where I went to church out of obligation, not enjoyment. I was burnt out. It was something I held close to my heart, hiding from the people I loved and served.

I spent my entire childhood waiting to become an adult. Now, at 23, married and in full time ministry with a full time job on the side to make ends meet: my only thought was "This is it? This is what I've waited for?"

I think everyone comes to this moment in adulthood.

Please understand that this inner struggle was just that: inner. It was hidden. That is, right up until October. When October came it became clear to me that "this" was definitely not it for me. It became apparent that I was out of place in what had been my home.

When you lose your ministry, your home church and leave your denomination of nine years there are many emotions that come into play during the healing process.

And that's exactly what the first month was: healing, because if we're being honest I was down right broken inside. I had been angry for quite some time. Frustrated. It felt as though nine years and $40,000 in debt for my Bachelor's had come to nothing. I worked for years in the hope of making myself into an acceptable "Preacher Lady" within my denomination.

Only to find there was nothing about me that was acceptable.

I was too unconventional. Too outside of the box. I believed too differently on open handed subjects that were never meant to make the rifts that we allow them to within the Bride of Christ.

The second month was one of letting go.

I let go of the notion that nine years meant loyalty. I let go of a good portion of my anger (and have to pick up forgiveness every day) for the hurt that I've experienced in this process.

Now, in the third month, I realize what all of this has been for: a redefining.

The Spirit is redefining what "church" is to me, I believe in an effort to help me see what it's always been meant to be. Did you know the Greek word used by Jesus and all the New Testament writers when they spoke of The Church is a word that simply means a gathering of believers?

When we look up the word there is no mention whatsoever of a building or a steeple.

Yet when we go to other countries to be missionaries we "build churches"? Instead of teaching them to value themselves and one another as the body and bride of Christ, we teach them: you need a building to be valid.

Awesome.

Now we wonder why people in America don't want to hear what we have to say? Maybe because they recognize the false doctrine in that teaching. They realize when what they're hearing in a lie. Yes, even those not "saved" can recognize truth. To believe otherwise is foolish and ignores the fact that we are made in God's image. Even if a mirror is damaged, we still call it a mirror.

But more importantly, God is redefining my calling.

At 16 when He revealed to me that my calling was to be a pastor I was terrified. Not only did I hate speaking publicly, but I was awfully unpolished. However, as I have come to learn God chooses the unpolished to use. (Moses was a slow speaker, Peter had a habit of putting his foot in his mouth when he spoke, Paul persecuted Christians, many of the disciples had no education besides how to fish.)

Maybe to be a pastor there doesn't have to be a podium. (THANK GOD!)

Maybe it means, like it meant for Peter, to be a fisher of men.

Blessings,
B.

Sing Blessings in Darkness

I have written my salvation story many times. To those who will hear and read it, I pray God was able to use my story to help you in yours.

It is high time for the community of believers to start acting like a community by helping one another out. 

So here is an exert of my life:

I was not raised in church. 

This would probably explain a great deal of my not so traditional quirks. 

I was the last of three children and 8 years younger than my brother who came before me. So as you can imagine as a child I was quite spoiled. My father, who was born right after the depression, grew up poor. He always says, "I want you to have what I never could." 

When I was five years old the fragile damn that held my family together broke. My father (who was a retired marine - 28 years - who was used to no talking back) beat my brother so badly my mother barely recognized him in the morning. 

We left my father's house and spent the next 3 years living on peanut butter sandwiches, Ramon and macaroni and cheese. To say it was a difficult time would be an understatement. Each person in my family responded to the negative events in their own way. 

Being young and completely lost in the new paradigm of my broken family, I developed serious anxious and depression. 

But the worst was yet to come. 

Just when things seems to be restoring themselves (my parents remarried - after much redemptive work on God's part and a miracle) my mental and emotional state broke. I developed PTSD after losing too much too fast and having to grow up too quickly. 

At fourteen I was a depressed, self abusing girl who felt like my soul had fallen into a pit. I felt that no one could reach me. 

I still remember the first time my parents noticed the marks on my arm: they threatened to place me in a mental health facility if the behavior continued. 

I came to know Christ not because of an organization, but because Christ helped me to see and understand how much He loved me. He showed me in a moment sitting, bored out of my mind, in a church pew my mother forced me to sit in, that He loved me where I was. His love had always been there waiting for me to call out of my darkness to Him. 

So when I said in my video blogs this past week or so that I understand a dark night of the soul it was not pomp and circumstance. I know what it is to feel unloved. I know what it is to feel dead inside. To feel unreachable and alone. 

To those of you who have experienced depression or are in the midst of a bout of it: know that you do not walk those dark corridors alone.

The best lie that the Empire and the enemy can make us believe is that we are alone. If we are alone, we are easily defeated.

Always remember that where you walk, not only have brothers and sisters in the faith walked before you, but the God of all creation made Himself a man do that He could walk that road as well.

Christ meets us in the midst of our worst seasons of life and breaths life, light and restoration into us. I know that though everything we face Christ stands beside us waiting for us to call out to Him. He does not stand afar off. Scripture teaches us that the Spirit of God (Holy Spirit) is the one who comes along aside us. 

God never leaves us alone in the wilderness. He teaches us that He will sustain us always.

God never leaves us alone in the storm. Instead He given us the peace to withstand it.  

God never leaves us alone in the darkness. He lets us know, He is the light and warmth in our cold loneliness. 

So regardless of what season you may be facing, always remember the God who is with us. The God who meets His people where they are instead of waiting for them to get better. No, He wants us even at our worst. He loves us unconditionally.

"We accept human testimony, but God’s testimony is greater because it is the testimony of God, which he has given about his Son. Whoever believes in the Son of God accepts this testimony. Whoever does not believe God has made him out to be a liar, because they have not believed the testimony God has given about his Son. And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son of God does not have life." (‭1 John‬ ‭5‬:‭9-12‬ NIV)

So when the darkness comes, sing blessings. Because as a beautiful soul (Mandisa) said as a concert I attended recently: "When you choose to bless the Lord in the middle of your darkness, the people around you listen." Also, "When we worship in our pain, God doesn't just set us free, He sets others around us free."

Don't just be a worshipper that blesses the Lord: Be a worshipper who does not depend on circumstance to worship, but who worships when it makes no sense and who's worship sets others free.

Because in the end, that's what we all truly desire and need: to love, be loved and experience true freedom.

Blessings,
B. 

The Heart of the Matter: A Call Back to What Matters for the Church

This will be a blog which is not derived from a sermon, but may very well one day become something I preach. Consider it more of a soap box. 

Recent events have helped me to realize why many people reject Jeuss because of what has become of the message of many churches. We have taken the simple doctrine of Christ and gone all Pharisee on it. 

In more intelligent terms: The past few centuries we have devoted our efforts to finding the "perfect" doctrine. In the place of disciple and the true ministry of bringing the love of Christ to the masses we have taken to arguing over who is more "right." 

But wait: the ripple effect gets worse. 

Not only have we wasted a great deal of time which could have used loving people squabbling over low priority items, we have taken it another step too far. We now call shaming people "evangelism." We think we can scare them into the arms of God. We use every verse we can to twist our message to make it sound like truth. 

The fact of the matter is that we find it more important to point out the wrongs of people than to tell them that God loves them. We are afraid to admit the truth that God loves them so deeply that His love is unaffected by our actions. 

When I first became a Christian, the kind of doctrine which I was initially introduced to was very conservative and dogmatic. Please do not misunderstand me, these were beautiful, loving people. To this day I adore them. As a result of this being the circumstance I found myself in as a young Christian, I held to these doctrines.

As I grew closer to God however questions began to rise that I did not dare voice to anyone except God in prayer. (Even then they were often never spoken, only thought in passing.) 

Does God really hate gay people? If so, is that ok?
How does God feel about guns? (I live in the south.)
The cuss words today were not the cuss words of Christ's time, so what makes them so bad? I mean you call someone a cookie in the right tone of voice and it can sound like a curse. 

To be clear: this is NOT an us and them issue. Every single one of us is guilty of getting our rocks off by pointing out the wrong in others. After all, so long as they are more wrong than us we are justified and right. 

The sad truth is that this heresy most certainly began because someone felt the need to be righteous and holy so deeply that they made it their personal campaign to spread that message. So now it is more important to "seem" righteous than to actually be righteous. It is more valued to be justified that to actually be free from the bondage of sin. Righteousness has trumped love. 

We have forgotten that if we do not have love, then we have nothing. 

To bring all of this down to a more personal space. 

During college I worked at a local sports bar called Buffalo Wild Wings. At this place I found so many people I fell in love with. Beautiful souls. Many of them did not hold to my beliefs. But I loved them regardless. 

Some were gay, all drank (many to excess), some did drugs and I loved them dearly.

Before being saved I was bisexual. To this day I cuss. I drink regularly. My bread cabinet is full of prescription drugs. 

For the first time all these questions I had came to have faces. I found my answers in those faces. It's very simple:

Regardless of your social status, opinion on drinking/drugs, and sexuality: God love us. Nothing we ever do will change that. He will always love us as much as He ever has. We are the apple of His eye and His treasure. 

It's not up to the Church to decide what anyone's sexuality/amount they drink/if pot is ok, or not. The Church is meant to let everyone know that Gof loves them and Christ came to prove it and changed the world for it. 

God Speaks From Storms

"If you think you're going through hell, keep going." -Winston Churchill 

On a cork board in our office at home, we have this quote tacked so that every time we walk in we will see it. It is the constant reminder that all of us, regardless of background, will at some point feel as though we are experiencing "hell on earth." It is also a reminder that regardless of how hellish it may get, we have to keep moving. 

Never become stagnant. 

The mission Christ has given us as his followers mandates that we keep moving. Even if we stay in one place, we are meant to bloom. We are meant to affect the world around us with the glory of the Lord. 

That's the beauty of the Gospel of Christ. That's why I love Him. 

God takes broken, messy, damaged people and heals them so that He can use them as a testimony, a showcase of you will, of how good and beautiful our God truly is. 

If we look at Job, we see a man who at the beginning and the end of the story is righteous before God. We see, if we only read the first and last of the story, that Job was a man who God blessed plentifully and used to show his goodness through. But what do we miss with the skewed perspective?

We miss the storm. We miss the picture of a man, just like us, who loses everything he holds dear. He lost everything that we today would use to identity him. He loses so much, that now that loss of everything and the following conversation he had with God become his identifiers. 

It's shocking at moments to read Job's words when he is in the center of the storm: "“May the day of my birth perish, and the night that said, ‘A boy is conceived!’ That day—may it turn to darkness; may God above not care about it; may no light shine on it." (‭Job‬ ‭3‬:‭3-4‬ NIV)

Talk about depression in the storm! But we sound exactly the same at moments. Let me modernize this for you:
"I wish I'd never been born. I wish I could die. Things couldn't get any worse. My life is over." 

Sound familiar? 

Then, a real physical storm comes (after over 30 chapters of Job and his friends going back and forth) and God sets the record straight. In short, God takes Job back to size, helping him realize that God is so much greater than the trouble Job had faced.  Once Job gets his perspective back, God blesses him and after the storm Job's life is better than it was before. 

In Matthew 8 we see Jesus perform more miracles than we can count. Seriously, the writer actually uses the word "many" instead of listing each one. We're talking healing of leaprosy, sickness, casting out of demons and at least two people who were close to death being brought back to the land of the living. After all this we see the picture of a would be follower: one to whom Christ makes it clear that if he wants to follow Christ he has to leave everything behind. 

Finally we get to the storm in this story. After all the miracles and the short conversation with the follower, Christ and His disciples get on a boat. Christ goes to sleep. Such a good sleep that when a storm that makes the disciples think they are going to die, Jesus doesn't even wake up. 

As I envision this storm I imagine Jesus not so much as wiping the sleep from His eyes as He stands and rebukes the storm. Everything becomes calm. Jesus made it clear to them that with faith there is no reason to fear any storm. 

Remember what Joseph said, "What you meant for evil, God has made it good"?

That's what God does through the storms of our lives. 

There is no such thing as a pointless storm. 

Every trial that we face is a step toward something. 

We may no feel like we're moving intentionally. It may feel as though we are being thrown about by life, but it is to propel us to something. Whether it be to a lesson learned or a place we need to go or even a place we need to get away from. 

Every storm has its purpose.  

Always know, in every storm that God is a refuge and the One who speaks from the storm.

Blessings. 

To Hell With Expectations: The God Who Came as a Servant

When we consider the idea of a Savior what do we think of?

I'm sure the Hebrew people imagined the Lion of Judah, the Jealous God. They imagined a King of Kings, coming to rescue them from oppression under the Roman Empire. A King coming to bring them into a new era where they would never again have to be subject to a third party system. They imagined no more heavy taxes which took over half of their salary. They saw a Jerusalem rising up to be the capital of the world as this new King took the throne.

They never imagined a child born in a food troth in a barn during tax season. They never would have dreamed that their "King" would be beaten, flogged, mocked and ultimately crucified by the Roman Empire they thought he would destroy.

They never thought their Savior would usher in a Kingdom of God where "the first shall be last." They certainly wouldn't have guessed he would tell them "love your enemy" and teach forgiveness like it was going out of style.

It wouldn't have even crossed their mind that their King would be the image of God come as a servant to save them, not from Rome, but from their sins. It would seem impossible to them that the King of Kings would kneel like a servant to wash His disciples feet and tell them that His body would be broken and His blood spilt for them.

And after all that, there's no way He would resurrect Himself and usher in a new covenant of love, forgiveness and the freedom from sin.

So when He came in such fashion, John 1, tells us that they didn't even know Him. In fact, they did not want the sort of King He was.

But God never intended to place the borders of His Kingdom around one specific nation. Instead He opens it to everyone. He welcomes the reject, the broken, the oppressed, the angry, the depressed, the sick, the lame, the poor and every other kind of undesirable this world has ever seen and despised. But why? Why would God make a place at the table of salvation and grace for the "worst of the worst"?

The answer is simple: Love.

The work of Christ (his crucifixion, death and resurrection) opened the door so that when God looks at us He sees what we were always meant to be. The salvation and grace that Christ bestows on us makes us not only the best versions of ourselves, but the best representation of Christ and the very image of God which we were made to reflect.

But wait! He didn't stop there.

The work of Christ was the definitive "God wins" on every principality, spirit of darkness, evil power, etc. So that the "war" we imagine is going on, has already had its' day of bloody ravaging of the innocent. The blood which wins this battle which we live in has already been won.

Now we are left, in partnership with the Holy Spirit, to spread the Gospel of Christ. The gospel that the One and Only King has come, conquered and rallied. So we embark, not on a mission hell-bent on spilling more blood, but on a mission of reconciliation. A mission of bringing the people around us to the altar of God. The altar where the spirits of oppression and injustice are futile. The altar where we leave having laid down burdens and picked up grace.

The moral of the story?

Don't spend so much time planning and building expectations.

Whatever it may be: your calling, ministry, a job or a trial you're going through we must be ready to set aside our own expectations. Because when the Real King came, He was missed due to foolish expectations. While we are busy building up our own expectations, God has already set His plan in motion. This is why I firmly believe that God often times smiles gently and whispers: "To Hell with Expectations" when we try to plan for Him.

Those Who Have Gone Before Us

In John 16 and verse 33, Jesus gives us a promise.

He says, "I have told you these things, so that in Me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world."

If we read the whole chapter we see that Jesus is telling them that He will leave soon, that He is returning to the Father. He talks about the work of the Holy Spirit. He tells them they will be scattered. (When He is crucified.)

In every season that I will be discussing in this series there is some kind of "trouble."

In the wilderness we come face to face with our doubts. We question whether God is still present? And yes, we wonder if He even exists.

But, if we walk in the wilderness with even a mustard seed sized faith, even in the face of these questions, we will trust that God is present.

Sometimes it means reminding ourselves of what He has done before. Reminding ourselves that we serve a good and beautiful God who loves us dearly and sent His Son to die for us.

So yes, of course, He is always present in the desert.

Even if He is sometimes silently working in the background on a plan that we do not yet understand.

We have heard of the Israelites in the desert. How many of them perished because of their unfaithfulness to God.

We have heard of Aaron and Moses, being led into the wilderness by God.

We have heard of John the Baptist who lived and ministered in the wilderness.

And we know that Jesus spent His fair amount of time in the wilderness. Whether it be due to the Spirit prompting Him or Him seeking shelter or even being baptized.

Many have gone before us through the wilderness.

There may be days when the only comfort we have is knowing that Jesus promises He would never leave or forsake us. Believing against the circumstances surrounding us that God is still at work in our lives, even when we do not see Him center stage.

Blessings.

A Good Place to Live

Finding a place where we belong can be truly challenging.

 

For the past few weeks my husband and I have been “church shopping.” Meaning, we’re visiting various churches in our area to find one right for us. One where the spirit of the community mirrors our own. This is the first time in my adult life that I’ve ever been on such a venture. Let me tell you, it’s got me thinking.

 

With each chapter of our lives there seems to come a new season. Here in Asheville, NC we are sort of experts at seasons. Just a few weeks ago I’m pretty sure we got a taste of all four within 7 days. No joke.

 

For a very long time I felt myself in a spiritual wilderness and I couldn’t understand why. I spent time with God. Whispering, listening, weeping and at times, even yelling. At the beginning of this month we made what for us was a huge life change.

 

We left our home church.

 

I had been at this church since I was saved. (Almost 9 years.) My husband had been there since we met and had equally fallen in love with the people and the spirit of God’s love which seemed to emanate from the place. But times and circumstance can change a place. They can even change people. Circumstances and people, often affect the spirit of any given place.

 

That’s what happened at this particular church. It became everything we never thought it would. Everything about American Church which causes people to turn from Christ and despise the Church at large. So we left, and it was the best decision we have ever made.

 

In the past weeks I have realized why it had to become unbearable for us to stay. God wanted us elsewhere. There is a whole different kind of ministry I never imagined outside those four walls. Ministry that really matters.

 

Please, don’t hear what I’m not saying. I believe in the Church. I LOVE the Bride of Christ. But the Church is not, and never will be contained within four walls. The Ekklesia (Greek for Church) is the people. It is the community of believers.

 

Sometimes God turns the luscious farmland around us to wilderness so that He can let us know it is time to move on to a new place. A good place to live which He has prepared and we must trust Him to lead us to.

 

 

From Organization to Organism

About a month ago I met with my mentor for coffee. We had recently gone through some big changes at the church I was attending at the time (and had been a member of for over 8 years) which had caused us to go from a small, unconventional congregation to a big, conservative mass. 

Just so we are clear, folks, I am not conservative. 

My mentor, for whom I hold the utmost respect, cautioned me that day concerning the way I speak. He said that I may need to be careful concerning what I said and with whom I said it to. At first I did not think anything of it. After all, I know sometimes I get in touch with my inner sailor and some not so choice words come out that may offend some. Also, in spite of my education, I am still twenty something and my age tends to show when I speak. 

As the days started to pass something began to bother me. Before you jump the gun, no it was not my mentor, or anything he had said. It was an observation I have made in the past. 

Often times, we "not so conservative" are asked to bite our tongues (especially women) and walk on eggshells so we do no "offend" our conservative brother. 

Pause for a second. 

Now, I am all about not being a stumbling block for other believers, so yes sometimes I sensor myself out of respect and a touch of wisdom. However, I get the feeling we take this out of proportion sometimes. I feel that we use this teaching to justify putting others in a corner to bully so we can feel better about our own shortcomings. 

Such as "No, you can't talk about your views on (fill in the subject) because it might hurt my feelings. Cause let's be honest, I haven't taken the time to research, study and determine what Scripture and the heart of God really say on the subject anyway. I'm just restating what others have told me to say because it "sounds" Christian."

Really? 

I realized soon after that meeting, and I had been slowly coming to the realization for months: as a Christian, and especially as a woman who feels called to ministry, I cannot and will not be effective if I am hiding while I minister. 

The best pastors, speakers, teachers, etc. that I have heard have been transparent. Anytime we as ministers try to live a life of hiding, someday what we've been hiding comes to light. Trust me, it's better to be real up front, than apologize for the skeletons in your closet later on. 

With all of this stirring in my spirit, and after confirming with my husband, we decided it was time to leave our home church. 

In the most recent days I've realized something else: We have taken the beautiful, powerful, organic gospel and made it into an advertisement from which we can make a profit. 

Lord, forgive us for when we lose sight of what is truly important and set our hearts on worldly gain. 

My dear friends, it is high time that the organization that we have made the church (singular, "a church building") be torn down and that we be brought back to our roots. The Church (universal), has to wake up and recognize that it is not about how much money we can make at the next fundraiser. It is about breaking down the outdated idea of church being a building, and realizing that the Church is the people. All the time. Not just on Sunday morning. 

It's time for the organism to come back. For us to realize, it's not about things, it's about people. 

I love you all. You have value. I pray grace, mercy and peace over each of you.